advice

When it comes to emotional matters people do not follow advice. Period. It is futile to become upset when someone asks you for advice and then starts to argue with you or does something completely different to what you recommended. The most well argued and well presented advice can go completely unheeded and the reason has nothing to do with how much they respect you or how you presented your evidence. Rather, people already know what they want to do but they lack the confidence to go through with it alone. When you give advice that is harmonious with someone's thinking it shows them that they are not alone and that someone else understands their logic. On the flip side, when you give advice that is unharmonious with someone's thinking, they start to think reflexively and map out their logic in order to justify their decision. Both ways accomplish the same thing - they allow the person to feel more confident in making a decision because they feel that what they want to do is well reasoned and logical. My advice if someone asks you for advice? Give your perspective about things and if they agree with you, talk more and if they disagree with you, listen without passing judgment.